For Women Only - What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men Description:

For Women Only : What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men review:
5 stars (An Answer to Our Prayer of S.O.S.) - My soon-to-be-husband and I try to live as closely to His will and word as we can, but even so, disagreements had been tearing us apart recently. Even as we approach the doorstep of marriage, we'd begun to have doubts because of the frequent misunderstandings. He heard a radio spot on a Christian station talking about the book and, in a desperate attempt to mend our relationship, he mentioned it to me. I was just as frustrated as he was, so I bought it the next day.



I read the whole book in about 3 hours. It was an easy read and, for someone so anxious to make things better, I couldn't put it down. He was at work when I read it in its entirity, but last night was eye-opening and awe-inspiring.



Ladies, I highly recommend making a list of questions to ask your significant other/husband while reading. So many things occurred to me, even things like, "Do you really see it this way?" or, "Is this really how you feel when I say/do ____?" We assume that men are all simpletons, and they play the role rather convincingly sometimes, but this book gives great insight. Because of simple changes in wording, I was able to understand quite a few things about him that I thought I knew (but didn't get) before. The conversation we had based on the questions I wrote ironed out SO many things that had been plaguing us for several MONTHS; we haven't been this happy since the few spark-filled days after we first met.



Finally, I must add something I found very helpful from this book. For longer than I've known my husband-to-be, I've struggled with depression. He's often encouraged me (in a concerned way, not a degrading one) to do things like lose weight or be active or have a more active social/spiritual life. I took these things to be insults, which only deepened my hole of worthlessness and low self-esteem. When we talked about the sections of the book that cover things like why they look at other women and what it means for those of us they come home to, or what our physical appearance means to them, or how the EFFORT of taking care of ourselves is more important that the result of those efforts, it made a lot of things "click" for me. The only thing (in my head) stronger than the depression is my love for him. If he tells me I can do something, it doesn't matter what the depression tells me. I'm not condoning things like losing weight because a guy tells you to, but seeing things from their point of view, not to mention having them confirm what you read in this book, makes a lot of things much clearer.



This book has helped both of us in so many ways. He breathes a little easier knowing that I try and succeed in understanding him better. Because of that understanding, it's easier for me to relate to him and for us to get through things as a couple; we've reclaimed our relationship from communication difficulties and depression. Last but not least, having a better idea of how he sees the world (and ME) has helped me to see myself in a different, more positive light.



Read this book! It will definitely change your relationship and the way you see him.
4 stars (Good ) - This is a well written and well researched book, however I would caution you to beware of women who presume to tell you how men think.
4 stars (Lots to think about) - This book has definately been an eye opener for me. I read it with my husband and he could identify with about 90% of the material in the book. There was of course some things that weren't paticularly in line with who he is or how he works or thinks. But it's opened up a lot of dialogue. Several times I was blown away by what I read (e.g. how most men view intimacy, the male need to make provisions for his family, & how the way other women dress can affect him & in turn affect me). This book will make you more aware of what is going on with man in your life. There's lots of good tid-bits to chew on, think about, & hopefully give the man in your life a little more credit & not be so undesservedly hard on him in those areas that makes him uniquely male. Just like we would like our men to have an understanding of us, I hope we can wave the white flag & try to start down the road of understanding togehter. I recommend this book. Even if you only have 1 or 2 lightbulb moments, you'll come away better educated on that other wonderful gender God created.